Monday, August 24, 2009

~ What's Wrong with Single Adults ~

How typical is the following conversation:

BFF A: "Hey, I just met this really cute guy. He's 28, tall, makes a decent living, knows how to cook and ...just so cute. Are you interested?"
BFF B: "Oh yeah? What's wrong with him? Does he have 2 heads ?"

Of course, this applies to girls too. I know I ask "What's wrong with him/her?" a few times, without really thinking about it. For some reason, when someone said to me today "How can she be single? She's so great!", I got a little defensive. I am not single so I am not defending myself, but I think this is more for all my wonderful single friends.

So, I just want to say this. Why can't wonderful people be single? Why do a lot of people assume that if people are over, say 25, and are single, there must be something wrong with them? I can think of many reasons that people are single:
  1. Haven't found the right one yet.
  2. Not looking for a relationship because they are planning on dramatic changes in their lives like a big move, or graduation.
  3. Not ready for a relationship. Maybe they want to build a career first. Maybe they want to focus on school.
  4. Don't believe in monogamy.
They can be surrounded by awesome, wonderful people, but don't have romantic feelings for them. Just because 2 great people meet, doesn't mean they will fall in love and date. If that's the case, there won't be monogamy in this world.

So, continuing from the conversation...
BFF A: "There's nothing wrong with him!"
BFF B: "Is he really picky? Does he want a super model with lots of money?"

Ok, in reality, who isn't picky about who they want to date? I am not talking about the "players" here, just regular people. Once again, if people are not "picky", there will be no monogamy. Everyone is looking for something different.

I think this whole attitude also contributes to a person's pain when a relationship ends. It's like people are programmed to think "He doesn't want to be with me anymore, there must be something wrong with me. No one will want me anymore." If you ever think that, take a good look at yourself. There's probably nothing majorly wrong with you. You have flaws like everyone else. He can't accept those flaws or he just doesn't have feelings for you anymore. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

Please note that those statements are not directed at anyone specific. I am just saying :)

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pxyjk said...

So you're BFFA trying to introduce me to a female friend of yours? Good job!

On a more serious note, I think people are just suprised if they know of a good person that's single. The reasons you give are valid for being single, but I think that the majority don't fall under that category.

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